In Search of a Byline

This is what my writing looks like after it has been read and edited by a former editor at the New York Times.

Yes — the second comment says “Credulous?? Gee Gosh Golly?”

And yes — I had to look up the definition of credulous.

I can only imagine what his comments would be on my blog posts… Looks like I have a long way to go. But I guess, what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger?

The Happiness Project

I recently read a new book titled “The Happiness Project” by Gretchen Rubin. I have to tell you, sorry Matt, that I think that I have found my soulmate.

Gretchen Rubin had an epiphany one rainy afternoon in the unlikeliest of places: a city bus. “The days are long, but the years are short,” she realized. “Time is passing, and I’m not focusing enough on the things that really matter.” In that moment, she decided to dedicate a year to her happiness project.

Gretchen wasn’t necessarily unhappy, she has an amazing husband and two loving daughters, but she realized that she wasn’t as happy as she would like to be. After researching the root causes of happiness and the psychology behind the feeling of happiness, Gretchen tackled a new set of resolutions every month: give proofs of live, ask for help, make time for fun and forget about results. And instead of drastically changing her life, she focused on improving the life she has already build.

During parts of the book, I felt as if I was reading about my own life. Gretchen and I seem to have very similar personailities:

  1. We both seek recognition for our accomplishments (i.e. we are always looks for the gold star),
  2. We nag our husbands and want them to be excited about the chorse we dole out, and
  3. We both get caught up in all of the things on our to do list that we forget why it is we are doing these things in the first place.

When I read the conversations between her and her husband, I could almost hear my own voice saying those same things to Matt. It was very surreal experience to read her  thoughts throughout the book; thinking the exact same things.

I began my own happiness project a year and a half ago when I began this blog. Like Gretchen, on paper, I had (and still have) a pretty good life. But I wasn’t as happy as I thought I should be. I was focusing on all of the negatives in my life instead of on the little things that make life so amazing. And while my project is a lot less organized that Gretchen’s; I think it is working. I can definitely say that I am much happier than I was when I started this blog.

But I am the first to admit, I still have a ways to go. I still want Matt to wantto take out the trash. I definitely still seek those gold stars. And I am still cranky if I am tired and/or hungry. But thanks largly to Robin Hood, my happiness in life has improved. As Steve Jobs said, “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

Thank you for following, commenting and supporting my happiness project. And don’t worry –  it is far from over.

Under Pressure

As many of you know, on Friday I was featured on word press’ main page Freshly Pressed. I had an amazing response and a lot of new visitors to my blog. In the past three days, I received more than 5,000 hits, which is pretty incredible considering it took me five months before I reached that number of hits. It was quite a weekend and a truly surreal experience. Now I am faced with only one problem…

What to write about for my next post.

The pressure is unbelievable. I started having nightmares last night and have spent the entire morning brainstorming ideas… Should I feature a DIY project? Or a new recipe?  Should I write more about the Rockefeller Christmas Tree (it is standing now…)

 Or should I write about tonight’s highly anticipated Glee episode featuring Gwyneth Paltrow?

While all of these would make great blog posts, they didn’t feel “good enough.” I then got the idea to feature some of my fellow bloggers who commented on my post. However, more than 70 people commented over the weekend and I don’t think I have enough time to go through and write-up a summary about each of these wonderful blogs. Although, I am making a point to visit and comment on each of these blogs.

Then I decided that I would feature videos from You Tube that always make me smile.

(This is why I want kids)

 

(This is why I wish life was a musical)

 



(This is why no one fully understands Abby’s and my sense of humor)

 

(This is why I can’t wait to marry Matt!)

 

And while I hope that these videos brought a smile to your face, they still don’t feel like enough. Again, I am faced with the dilemma… how do I follow-up a post the received more than 5,000 hits?

This simple answer is, I don’t. I have come to the realization that I can’t change my blog just because a few more people happened to click-through to my site. If I did that, I would just be focusing on the big things because the little things would never seem good enough. The whole reason I started writing this blog was to keep a positive outlook on life. I can’t stop doing that because of the big things in my life. So while I am extremely excited to have been featured on freshly pressed and I spent the weekend approving comments and tracking my stats, my focus remains the same. I am continuing to focus on the little things in life.

Thank you word press for picking my blog and thank you readers and fellow bloggers for clicking through. I hope you continue to follow along, comment and spread PMA.