Wedding Etiquette

Since Matt and I got engaged, I have become obsessed with weddings. Not only the process of planning my own wedding, but reading about other weddings, wedding vendors and looking at countless photographs. The main “feeders” of my addiction are wedding blogs: Once Wed, Snippet and Ink, and 100 Layer Cake. These are far and away the best wedding blogs out there. I also purchases a lot of bridal magazines when we first started the planning process, but now I limit my reading to the Martha Stewart Wedding magazine that arrives in my mail box every month.

While my father certainly sees this as an addiction, I see it more an informal research. Who knows when this will come in handy again. Knowing when it is appropriate to mail out save the dates (roughly six – seven months before the wedding), how many people to invite to your shower (only people who are invited to the wedding should be considered) and what are the Best Man’s responsibilities (throw the bachelor party, carry the rings – unless there is a ring bearer, and make sure the Groom actually shows up on time)! These are all crucial things that everyone should probably know.

In addition, I have learned that as a wedding guest you never wear white, always show up on time, don’t take pictures during the ceremony, RSVP promptly and send gifts either before or after the wedding – don’t bring it to the wedding. And while my list of “wedding guest skills” doesn’t include amazing dance moves, it does include, “amazing gift giver.”

As I wrote about earlier (see previous post) I have a talent for finding deals, especially when it comes to wedding presents. I am happy, yet slightly embarrassed to say, that I put these skills to use yesterday.

Conversation with Jamie (one of my bridesmaids):

Me: I am the best wedding guest ever.
Jamie: Why?
Me: Because I find deals and buy sick wedding presents.
Jamie: That does make you a good wedding guest. I can’t wait to invite you to my wedding.
Me: Yes, agreed. I am happy I invited myself to my own wedding. And I just bought myself two of my place settings as a gift.
Jamie: Umm, what?
Me: They were on sale at Macy’s… buy one place setting, get another free! That is just too good to pass up.
Jamie: That is a good deal, but I think the whole point of a wedding registry is to have OTHER people buy you presents.
Me: It is? Interesting…

Thank you Macy’s for randomly deciding the carry a limited amount of my china, at an incredible discount.

    

And for those of you who hate shopping and never know what to get off the registry, my services are available on a consultation basis.

San Fran Recap

Matt and I flew into San Fran on Friday night and spend the weekend there with the BEST hosts ever, Susie and Chase. They planned a very busy, yet not very typical, weekend in the city for us. Susie is originally from San Fran, so she prides herself on showing people the “real” city; not the seals at the piers or Ghirardelli Square.

We started off the weekend with some amazing food at a small restaurant on Chestnut Street. I fell in love with their neighborhood, they live in the Marina District, where the streets are lined with cute shops and minimal “chain” stores. The only “negative” to living in San Fran that I could find was the cold weather. When I left New York, the weather had been sunny and 90 degrees. When we arrived in San Fran, the weather was cloudy and 70. However, as a native New Hampshirite, I don’t really mind the cold; especially when it comes to dress. Unlike New York, where the “going out dress code” consists of short skirts, tank tops and heels (which I clearly never partake in) regardless of the temperature, from what I gathered, the dress code in San Fran was jeans and North Face fleece coats which is MUCH more my scene. I remember one time a bouncer in New York gave me a hard time about getting into the bar because I was wearing Uggs and a North Face fleece coat.

Saturday our day began very early with Chase starting things off at 8am. We ventured over to the Ferry Building where countless vendors lined the sides of the streets selling fresh fruit, corn, vegetables, bread, meats, and the world’s best coffee, Blue Bottle Coffee. We walked around a bit, purchased some breakfast and bought some food for our upcoming camping trip to Yosemite.

After the Ferry building we went to the Filbert Steps in the city. We walked the steps which serve as the only access point to various apartments and houses. I kept thinking how inconvenient it would be to live there until I realized that it is pretty much the same thing as living in a 4th or 5th floor walk up in NYC.

Following the steps, we rented kayaks and paddled our way around the bay. We enjoyed beautiful views of the city and numerous seals. They let us get pretty close as they sun bathed along the docks.

Our next stop was the Tourist Club, a german social/hiking club in the middle of the woods. We took in the views and enjoyed a beer for about an hour. The whole time I was there, I felt like I was at a summer camp for adult hikers.

On our way back to Susie and Chase’s apartment, we stopped at the beach and another bar/restaurant area with views of a popular surfing beach.

We capped off day one with a mexican dinner and drinks for Susie’s Birthday. By the time we found our way back to their apartment, I practically fell into bed. Needless to say, it was a very long, but very fun day.

On Sunday we woke up and went to Boudin Bakery for breakfast. Afterwards it was off to Sports Basement to pick up a few camping supplies and then to the Golden Gate bridge where we were able to take some classic tourist pictures.

Our last San Fran adventure was to trip to the Point Bonita Lighthouse. Here we made out way over the rickety old bridge that brings you to the lighthouse that sits on the very tip of the bay. While the lighthouse was impressive and had unbelievable views of the city, it was overshadowed by who came along with us.

After getting engaged, I have become obsessed with wedding blogs. At first I was intrigued by this mystery world that I didn’t know existed. It is crazy what you become exposed to once you put a diamond ring on your finger: wedding blogs, expos and countless decisions to make. Well, one of my all-time favorite wedding blogs is written by Susie’s high school friend. So on Sunday, I was introduced to the master mind behind the blog, Snippet & Ink. Needless to say, it was like meeting one of the big celebrities in the wedding world.

I was sad to leave San Fran so soon; however Chase and Susie made it seem like we had been there much longer than 2 days.

Up next… our trip to Yosemite. Stay tuned!