How to be a Good Wife During a Financial Melt Down


Wall Street is having a serious case of financial crisis déjà vu: wild triple-digit swings in the Dow, massive volatility and headline-to-headline driven trading are now just part of the average day. Wall Streeters are trading in their morning cup of coffee for a daily dose of pepto bismo.

I received a phone call from my loving husband today. He typically calls me during the day to see how my work day is going and report on anything interesting. Well, today his message was simple: “our fidelity account is taking a nose dive and stop spending money.”

Well that is just a ridiculous request. Let’s be realistic, I need to spend some money to survive. But I decided to make an effort to spend as little money as possible. So today, on my trip to CVS I saved more than 10 dollars through coupons and my extra care card. Go me! And everything I purchased, from the paper towels to the new amazing teal nail polish, was 100% necessary to survive.

Between the constant stream of homemade cookies coming out of our kitchen, my daily use of our new steam mop, and now my coupon cutting abilities, I think I am going to be in the running for “Wife of the Year, 2011.”

Wedding Etiquette

Since Matt and I got engaged, I have become obsessed with weddings. Not only the process of planning my own wedding, but reading about other weddings, wedding vendors and looking at countless photographs. The main “feeders” of my addiction are wedding blogs: Once Wed, Snippet and Ink, and 100 Layer Cake. These are far and away the best wedding blogs out there. I also purchases a lot of bridal magazines when we first started the planning process, but now I limit my reading to the Martha Stewart Wedding magazine that arrives in my mail box every month.

While my father certainly sees this as an addiction, I see it more an informal research. Who knows when this will come in handy again. Knowing when it is appropriate to mail out save the dates (roughly six – seven months before the wedding), how many people to invite to your shower (only people who are invited to the wedding should be considered) and what are the Best Man’s responsibilities (throw the bachelor party, carry the rings – unless there is a ring bearer, and make sure the Groom actually shows up on time)! These are all crucial things that everyone should probably know.

In addition, I have learned that as a wedding guest you never wear white, always show up on time, don’t take pictures during the ceremony, RSVP promptly and send gifts either before or after the wedding – don’t bring it to the wedding. And while my list of “wedding guest skills” doesn’t include amazing dance moves, it does include, “amazing gift giver.”

As I wrote about earlier (see previous post) I have a talent for finding deals, especially when it comes to wedding presents. I am happy, yet slightly embarrassed to say, that I put these skills to use yesterday.

Conversation with Jamie (one of my bridesmaids):

Me: I am the best wedding guest ever.
Jamie: Why?
Me: Because I find deals and buy sick wedding presents.
Jamie: That does make you a good wedding guest. I can’t wait to invite you to my wedding.
Me: Yes, agreed. I am happy I invited myself to my own wedding. And I just bought myself two of my place settings as a gift.
Jamie: Umm, what?
Me: They were on sale at Macy’s… buy one place setting, get another free! That is just too good to pass up.
Jamie: That is a good deal, but I think the whole point of a wedding registry is to have OTHER people buy you presents.
Me: It is? Interesting…

Thank you Macy’s for randomly deciding the carry a limited amount of my china, at an incredible discount.


And for those of you who hate shopping and never know what to get off the registry, my services are available on a consultation basis.